Guest Blog Post by Deborah Logan
The G-spot has long been the holy grail of female erogenous zones, an elusive unicorn that sometimes seems more myth than reality. In fact, according to reports, only 30 percent of women say they’re able to achieve orgasm from intercourse alone. While this number might suggest some simply aren’t capable of having a G-spot orgasm—or may not have a G-spot at all—that is far from the truth.
As this article points out, the G-spot isn’t a myth in the slightest. Rather, it’s a very real part of your anatomy, newly documented in MRI scans and biopsies by medical doctors. So, if every woman can rest assured she bears this hot button of reported pleasure, why can it be so difficult to find?
Often described as a spongy sort of area, the G-spot is located about two inches inside the vaginal canal. The most commonly recommended way to find your G-spot is to insert a finger or two inside the vagina, palm facing up, and then hook your fingers in a “come hither” motion. But locating the area is certainly not a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. In the same way every vagina is unique, the G-spot isn’t always in the same exact spot on every woman.
A is for…Another G-Spot?
Sometimes referred to as the second G-spot, the A-spot is not as well known, but is just as important to amazing sensations. The AFE (Anterior Fornix Erogenous) zone, or A-spot, is located beyond the G-spot just above the cervix. This is at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper wall where it begins to curve upwards. By massaging the area just as you would the G-spot, many women achieve not only intense pleasure. There is a boost in arousal along with increased lubrication, a benefit that is especially helpful for those who experience vaginal dryness.
Some women report G-spot and A-spot orgasms as more intense than those achieved by clitoral stimulation. That is saying a lot, considering how amazing clitoral orgasms already are. G-spot and A-spot orgasms can revitalize your sexual response, leading to improved libido, and in some women, squirting. Because the A-spot and G-spot are fairly close together, it’s possible to stimulate the two pleasure points at the same time, allowing for a whole body experience.
As made clear here, most couples find it difficult to find these two spots. Apparently it’s mainly because when they’re stimulated the sensation is more like a feeling of pressure rather than the immediate sensual gratification that comes from say, clitoral stimulation. But the more time you spend focusing on the areas and incorporating them into your sexual repertoire, the easier it will be to achieve G-spot and A-spot pleasure.
Practice Makes Perfect
Exploring your body is essential to learning what feels good, works best, and leads to powerful orgasms and an overall satisfying sexual experience. Adding sex toys to the mix can take those sensations to the next level, amplifying your pleasure. Vibrators and similar toys give you the ability to locate and stimulate your G-spot, not to mention every other sensitive spot such as the clitoris, A-spot, and anus.
G-spot vibrators in particular are specifically designed with an angled shaft and tip ideal for massaging that spongy area. While the use of a toy can make locating these sometimes tricky to find spots easier, it may still take some practice to figure out just what gets you there. The more relaxed you are, the more likely you’ll be able to achieve a G-spot or A-spot orgasm. This means not only being comfortable in the moment, but also with your partner. It can be helpful to explore solo before including a partner, as to better know (and communicate!) what feels best and makes your toes curl with pleasure.
With trial and error, patience, and of course plenty of practice, finding your G-spot and A-spot can result in intense orgasms that benefit your overall sex life.