- What to do When You are Sure It’s Their Fault - No matter how much we love someone, they can do and say things that irritate us, or even arouse some intense feelings of anger. In those moments, it’s tempting to demand an apology. Of course, some of us prefer to ignore our irritation, hoping it will go away. But either strategy, cheats us of the [Read more...]
Netflix’s OneTaste Documentary: Another Cult Leader Who Justifies Child Abuse? - Trigger Warning: this article talks about sexual assault, child molestation and disturbing cult dynamics Netflix’s documentary about the infamous sex cult, OneTaste, premiered the first week of November despite a lawsuit filed by fourteen former members. The plaintiffs dropped their lawsuit when Netflix agreed to blur their faces. After viewing the film, I can see [Read more...] - How to Spot Narcissistic Abuse and What to do About It - Do you have a narcissist in your life? Would you know if you did? If you’re not familiar with the different kinds of narcissism, you definitely want to keep reading. This article also tells you how to spot the six signs of narcissistic abuse. And the video at the end goes into detail about narcissism [Read more...]
We Need Our Grief - There’s a lot happening in this world that evokes grief for me. The Climate Crisis, Russia’s Invasion of Ukraine, and the Supreme Court’s reversal of Roe v Wade, are just a few of the highlights. But I, like you, also encounter events that evoke grief in my personal life. If you follow this blog, you [Read more...] 
Who’s at Fault Here? - He accused her of maliciously severing his finger and spitefully pooping in their bed. She said he beat her up before he sodomized her with a bottle. There was more of course. And every gory detail was steeped in bitterness and hurt. As Johnny Depp and Amber Heard shared the sordid details of their deeply [Read more...] 
There’s More to Remember and See More Clearly? Really? - This is the Shame Free Zone and I do my best to model as much transparency as is possible. Yet I can be just as blind to some truths about myself, as anyone else. I often joke that I’m in denial about something right now. I just don’t know what it is. Yet. I know [Read more...] 
How Trauma Can Complicate and Confuse Consent - Trigger Warning: This article includes my personal story of surviving sexual assault and reclaiming my sexual empowerment. I also share crucial and cutting edge information about consent for ALL genders that EVERYONE of us needs to know. My references to men’s and women’s perspectives and behaviors, pertain to anyone who identifies with the societal conditioning [Read more...] 
Female Ejaculation: Is it Real? - If you are confused about female ejaculation, you are in good company! Recent headlines have questioned if it even exists, citing questionable research that has gone so far as to assert it’s really just “pee.” Meanwhile, experts continue to debate whether female bodies have a G-spot and many doctors are oblivious to the fact that [Read more...] 
Paths to Healing Sexual Trauma and Sexual Shut Down - Trigger Warning: This article contains references about sexual assault and may be triggering for some readers. I was 25 when I finally got into therapy for sexual assault. By then, I had been molested by my father, raped by a college classmate and then raped yet again by a coworker. For years I had tried [Read more...] - Why is SHE the Original Bad Girl? - Once upon a time the first woman and the first man lived in a beautiful tropical paradise where they enjoyed all the carnal delights. But the man got greedy and wanted to control their sex. He demanded that the woman lie beneath him during their lovemaking. But the woman wanted to ride atop the man [Read more...]
Veronica Monet's Shame Free Zone
From Frustration to Empowerment
