I confess I am big flirt. And it hasn’t always been the best course of action.
Sometimes my flirtations have been misinterpreted as come ons. There is a difference. And yet try explaining that to the guy or gal who feels misled when they discover I was only flirting.
How about you?
Do you flirt? And if so, what does that look like? Are you always hoping to hook up? Or do you just enjoy the chemistry of the flirtation?
For me, if I am really serious about a possible romance with someone, I am LESS likely to flirt.
Why?
Fear. There is a lot of risk in letting someone know how much you like them – especially if you like them in that way.
But flirting feels like harmless fun to me. An opportunity to appreciate the sex appeal of others in a context without any expectations or complications.
Of course not everyone sees it that way. And that IS where we can run into problems. We all have our own unique perceptions and projections.
In this video podcast, Tomer Applebaum and I explore flirting and how it can tip over into an “Eww moment” or even a #MeToo moment for the recipient.
I would love to know how it lands for you. And even if you don’t watch the video, I would love to know what role flirting plays in your life, if you have ever hated the way someone flirted with you or if you felt misunderstood when you flirted . . . and finally, here’s hoping any flirting you do brings a smile to the faces of everyone!
https://youtu.be/eZej6IOWVL4