Beginning at an early age and continuing throughout our lives, most of us absorb toxic messages regarding sex. Whether we learn that sex is dirty or desire is dangerous, our sexuality often becomes a source of shame. Some people, male identified persons especially, may come to view sex as something they must “perform.” If they …
“I love my clients. I feel a deep amount of compassion and empathy for them. I don’t just show up to listen to them; I’m really engaged. I spend a lot of time when we’re not in session researching how we’re going to turn a page for them — how we’re going to solve a …
Your body is precious. And believe it or not, your body is also your boundary. But a lot of us don’t know that. So we allow touch that doesn’t feel good to us. Why? Most of us were taught to accept hugs and even kisses that we may have felt conflicted about as children. Fortunately, …
Touching ourselves . . . it can be a taboo that is difficult to overcome. Sure, a lot of us DO masturbate, or at least have done so at some time in our lives. But many of us have also felt embarrassed or even shameful about it. As sexually open as our culture might appear …
Some would say that we are ALL traumatized. Even if your childhood was rosy, look around you. Trauma inducing world events are everywhere. That’s why it is SO important that you make your healing and your happiness a top priority. If you do, you will be better able to help others and to help usher …
That’s me pretending to talk on the phone in a hotel room. This was a staged photo for an interview in the New York Times. Jeff Goodell, who now writes for Rolling Stone, interviewed me for the Times in 2001 and this photo was taken by Gail Albert Halaban, a professional photographer hired by the …
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